Everyone is too busy nowadays….. April 30, 2007Posted by sinchan in Uncategorized.
No time….that is the most ‘popular word’ of the day. No time to see you go to school…take a bus, walk or go to school yourself…or we will get a van, or school bus for you…to take you to school. No time to see you take your meals…..make it yourself, or mum have left you something to eat….feed yourself…ok. No time to talk, play, feed, or tuck you in bed….because I have work to do…other things to do.
These are some of the excuses left on the doorsteps, excuses left hanging on to the fridge doors …stuck on by magnetic ‘note hangers’ …..excuses hanging on to the earlobes of children….resonating through their minds, into their subconscious…reverberating through their childhood, into their teens and adulthood. Their parents do not have time for them…because they are busy working, or busy with something else.
For those urbanites that could afford, they will hire a lived-in maid or amah (maybe Indonesians or Filipinos), or part-time maid to look after the children. Or maybe send the small ones to nursery or babysitter (even though their child is beyond babyhood…maybe ‘care-sitters’ is a more appropriate term,). So….do not be dismayed to discover that your child has cultivated a foreign accent….Indonesian of Filipino or whatever…..
Do not be appalled if they have mannerism inculcated by these maids….that looked after them…as children are impressionable lots…like clean slates or a white cloth….imprinted by those that are close to them most of the time.
What about those children left on their own by parents whom are either working or too busy by other things? Living in a crowded flat, room or house…in urban areas can be stressful. Noisy…. Crowded area with no privacy…how to do the homework? Who to overlook and supervise their time? What about ‘Latchkey’ children? These ‘Home Alone’ children…usually left on their own by parents…and have many negative implications to their welfare and psychology…..( http://aacap.org/page.ww?name=Home+Alone+Children§ion=Facts+for+Families )Children when left on their own, too often and for a long period of time are ‘at risk’…( http://www.at-risk.org/) . These children, ‘neglected’ or left on their own may succumbed to ‘negative’ influences such as negative peer pressure, peer in-group influence, drugs, deviant behaviour and…the list goes on. This lack of attention from parents in terms of quality parent-child relationship may result in ‘detachment’.
So….do not be surprised to face the situation as depicted here in this note left for Mummy and Daddy….
Dear Mummy and Daddy….
Please feed yourself….I have left you food in the fridge
You may heat up the food in the microwave
I hope the food is not too hard for your denturesMummy and Daddy dear….amuse yourself with the TV programmes
That is…if your eyesight is clear enough to see
I hope this goes without saying that you will hopefully…
notice this piece of note that I left on the fridge…
Like the many pieces of note that you left on the fridge years ago for me…
Now…..now DO NOT BOTHER me….can’t you see that I AM BUSY!
TOO BUSY…like you were busy long go
You were TOO BUSY and have no time to give me a hug
when I needed Love and Care,
The love that you tried to compensate with ‘material things’
Bombarded me with toys and books and piano lessons, tuitions and what- nots
That you explained was eminent for my future and wealth…
Too bad…I am very poor indeed….though I now owned a fleet of cars and companies
And worldly possessions that fill many corners of the world in the many houses that I owned
Yes..I am rich……
see I could even afford to hire you a maid or nurse to take care of you
and maids to clean your diapers for you if I wanted to
I could even send you to the old folk’s home…
if I really feel that I do not have the time and patience
For you have left me RICH in wealth..But POOR in my heart..
Forever there will be a vacuumThat had for years
Waited for your company…..dearest Mummy and Daddy Waited for you…..in the long hours of the days and nights
To feel you blowing away my bruises and kiss my away my pain
To feel your warmth….your hugs and kisses
To hear your voices as I approach slumberland
All in vain….for all those years
So….hush hush now…….Mummy and Daddy
Occupy yourselves now…you hear
Coz..I am TOO BUSY and have NO TIME for You..
As long ago…you have NO TIME for me Just imagine..the above could be a reality………………..(To be continued)